When Life Demands a Slower Season

by Monday, April 7, 2014 18 Permalink

Hi Smallish friends! It’s been awhile since I’ve said hello without a resurrected archive post following. I hope you’re enjoying the first glimpses of spring (or fall, for those of you in the Southern Hemisphere!). I’ve spent the past several weeks adjusting to our new normal as a family of five in the Shoebox. Click through for a peek into our real life, which seriously demands a slower season…

Overall, we are doing really well. Caveman is working a new great job and loving it.The boys love their new sister. Little Lady is a sweet, beautiful, easy going baby. I am recovered and thankfully have the energy to at least keep up with the whirlwind of energy I am charged to manage.

Those of you who know what it is like to have an infant, however, know that a season of “survival mode” must be weathered since babies require so much focused care. Therefore “doing really well” with a newborn in the house certainly means something different from other stages of life. ;)

Can I be real for a moment? Well, I’m always real. But I don’t often tell you about those less-than-shiny moments in the Shoebox. So allow me to open the door wide: it’s always a mess. Like, complete disaster zone all the time. I can’t keep up with laundry or dishes and organizing clothes is now something I can only do in daytime fantasies.

I’m tired. Like, so tired I cry in Target parking lots for silly reasons. One morning not so long ago I turned on the wrong burner and succeeded in cracking a glass bowl full of oranges instead of cooking oatmeal. Feeding myself is suddenly very difficult to find time to do; a good day is when I eat something more than the crusts of the boys’ sandwiches. Everybody always needs something from Mommy, and the days are a wild sprint from first noises to bedtime tuck-ins.

Put simply, I cannot handle anything besides mothering from sunup to sundown.

That’s just life with three children three and under, I guess. Lest the above description smack too negative, let me say this loud and clear: LIFE IS GOOD. Mothering these children is sweeter than cotton candy. It’s amusing. It’s fun. It’s a precious gift.

These days swell with hold-my-breath-amazing moments. My boys are hilarious. Hilarious. And so smart. It’s fascinating to watch them learn new facets of life every day. I am rediscovering amazing literature (The House On Pooh Corner is dazzling!) My daughter is gorgeous and simply a dream for whom to care. Her smiles and cuddles can seriously stop time. I marvel at my children’s long eyelashes and soft cheeks and the intelligence of brains that somehow my body grew from scratch. Crazy-no-time-for-anything else-mommying? I.love.this. I LOVE IT!

But I barely have time to feed myself each day and certainly no time to blog on a regular basis. This sweet, sticky, stinky, slobbery, sparkling season will be over all too soon, and I don’t want to miss it. I won’t. I want to look back and say that I gave these little years—these little humansmy all.

This sweet, sticky, stinky, slobbery, sparkling season will be over all too soon and I don’t want to miss it.

That’s a long way of saying that I won’t be posting weekly for awhile. I’ll still be around and will publish posts when I can manage, but more likely is that I’m managing nap times, playing trucks on a so-dirty-I-don’t-even-want-to-think-about-it floor and teaching letter sounds, which frankly is exactly what I should be doing.

I have lots of thoughts swirling around to share with you all though! I just can’t commit to a writing schedule at the moment.

Thanks for your grace and patience as we plod through this season. Thanks also for sticking around as I step back a couple keystrokes to concentrate on my kiddos.  :) Chat soon………

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18 Comments
  • Jacquie
    April 7, 2014

    I SO love your transparency my friend and applaud your decision to focus on the life in front of you. Blogs will come and go and when you can post, I know it will be amazing.

  • Dale
    April 7, 2014

    Ah darlin’ Evelyn! Don’t worry about the dirty floors and messy kitchen. Enjoy this time! You are absolutely correct. Time does fly (why just yesterday my boys were 3 and 1 – they are now 16 and 14!!)

    They won’t remember a mess, they’ll remember spending quality time with mama – that’s the important thing!

    Take the time you need and, when you have enough energy to type, share with us the amasing things your children did!

    • Evelyn
      April 7, 2014

      Thanks for your encouragement, Dale! :)

  • Jane Sasser
    April 7, 2014

    I remember bursting into tears in the grocery store and having to abandon my partially filled basket. My mother was next door in the laundromat; I asked her to please go over to the grocery store and put things back on the shelves. By the time she got over there– maybe four minutes– a clerk had already put everything away; he had seen me break down and was worried about me.

    • Evelyn
      April 7, 2014

      That was me in the doctor’s office last week. I had to call Dan to come get the kids for me because I was a tearful wreck! I’m grateful for my knight in shining armor. :)

  • Joy @ Joyfully Green
    April 7, 2014

    Definitely been there, Evelyn! Enjoy this time with your family–it is a rollercoaster of emotions and sleep deprivation, isn’t it? But there’s nothing that compares to it and I wouldn’t have traded it either. Wishing you well!

    • Evelyn
      April 8, 2014

      Thanks, Joy. Yes it is definitely a roller coaster… but a good one! :)

  • lyle @ the Joy of Simple
    April 8, 2014

    Wow Evelyn!! I honestly don’t know what to say except thanks for sharing that with us.

    As a single male, and a bachelor to boot, I’ve never experienced the joy and, I can imagine, frustration, of taking care if little ones. Your heart-felt post was indeed an eye-opener for me and now that I know the skinny…I’m staying away from parenthood :)

    Take care and all the best.

    Lyle

    • Evelyn
      April 9, 2014

      Haha! Oh, Lyle this wasn’t meant to deter from parenthood, because it is truly the most amazing, sweetest experience in the world. It’s just exhausting. ;)

  • Cathy
    April 8, 2014

    When my 2 boys were little, I was a single mom working 2 jobs. Oh how I remember those “zombie days”…I was always soooo tired….and usually just ate whatever they left on their plates! Relax….forget about the mess…just love and enjoy your children. The mess will still be there whenever you get around to it, and your kids won’t even notice it. You being there…they will notice that. They grow up fast, they really do…mine are 34 and 31 now.

    • Evelyn
      April 9, 2014

      Thanks, Cathy. Good to know the zombie thing isn’t just me! ;)

  • Lindsay
    April 8, 2014

    Good luck with everything! I hope to see you back around, and definitely look forward to your next posts, but it sounds like you’ve got quite enough on your plate right now!

    • Evelyn
      April 9, 2014

      It’s funny, Lindsay. Ever since writing this post I have blog ideas popping up everywhere! Now to just find the time to write them…. I’ll be around. Thanks for commenting!

  • Kristen LaValley
    April 18, 2014

    Sigh…thanks for this reminder. I’m also underfed and underslept. It’s so hard for me to slow down because I want everything to be better than it is. I want my house to be cleaner, my food to be warmer, and my blog to be bigger. But those aren’t the things that are important. The phrase of my life right now is “It’s only a season.” Sometimes I say that while rocking back and forth in the fetal position…but still…

  • Christina
    April 23, 2014

    Thanks for stopping by earlier and entering the giveaway! I love your blog! And I’m so impressed with the space ya’ll are working with. We did 400 square feet for about a year (3 months with a baby) and it was tight! Tiny living is so interesting. Look forward to visiting back again

    • Evelyn
      April 23, 2014

      Thanks Christina! I’m glad you popped by, too. I love your blog as well! Yeah it’s tight here but we make it work. ;)

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